Indian marriages rely highly on matching janam kundlis. It is like a crucial test a couple has to go through to convince their respective families about their compatibility.
However, if you and your partner truly love each other, kundlis are mere traditional chores you have got to get through with. Love triumphs above it all !
- A piece of paper can’t decide the fate of two people in love
Indian marriages abide by the rules of kundlis. To be together, kundlis have to match or else the relationship cannot go further. It is funny how we trust a piece of paper to decide the fate of people, and not love.
- Compatibility doesn’t depend on kundlis
Compatibility is best judged when two people come together and share their views. You never know what two people have in common, until and unless they haven’t shared their interests.
- There are instances where marriages have been strong despite a failure in kundli-matches
Many couples who have married their love are leading a happy married life today. They never matched kundlis and they are still very much in love.
- There are also instances where marriages have failed, despite matched kundlis
Now who should you blame?
- If you have known each other for a long time, nothing else really matters
If you know your partner from a long time, you probably know everything about them. Matching kundlis then just remains a traditional chore that you get done just in order to convince your parents.
- There’s some debate, but kundlis were in fact made to reject proposals without hard feelings
The easiest way to reject a proposal was, and is, saying that the kundlis don’t match. It is a polite way to say ‘no’ to a not-so-promising proposal.
- If we go by kundlis, then mangliks have a tough time finding a partner
As per Hindu Astrology, if a person is ruled by Mars (Mangal) , then he/she is considered to be affected by Mangal dosha. Such conditions make it difficult for them to get a match. This is therefore too harsh on people who are not finding love, most likely due to various other reasons, but are then blamed due to their mangal dosha.
- Astrologers sometimes play too big a role
There are astrologers who persuade people to break marriages because their kundlis don’t match. There are also astrologers who will find remedies to cure the doshas. But the ones you have got to watch out for the most are the astrologers who make fake kundlis !
- Kundlis are based on 8 gunas. If you already know your partner in these 8 criterias, you don’t need kundli
There are 8 gunas that decide the compatibility quotient — Varna (matching of the castes, Vashya (attraction), Tara (longevity), Yoni (nature and characteristics), Graha Maitri (natural friendship), Gan (mental compatibility), Bhakoot (relative influence of one on the other) and Nadi (possibility of child birth). Logically, the gunas are a perfect parameter to judge your partner with, but will happen either way, even if you spend a considerable amount of time with your partner.
- Taking it with a pinch of salt
Most of us won’t believe in this tradition, but some of us won’t get married without it. So, just take it with a pinch of salt. If you really like your prospective bride/groom, then tell your parents and astrologers to find an alternative to the kundli problem.
- Love triumphs all
If you love your partner unconditionally, truly, deeply and madly then rest assured that you will score above 100 in any kundli matching or compatibility test.
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