It is not permissible except in a case where both parties trust one another and where the parents agree to the marriage and have no objections. It is acceptable for them to speak to one another in a normal manner, discussing matters of life that concern them. But if they know that their parents do not agree to that, then it is not permissible for them to speak to one another in this case.
Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Jibreen.
The fiancée is still a non-mahram woman and speaking to her is still speaking to a non-mahram woman, so it must be done properly and only as much as is necessary, such as agreeing on specific matters to do with after they get married. Attention must also be paid to the following:
1 – It must be done with the agreement of the woman’s guardian and with no objection on his part to the marriage.
2 – The talk should not involve anything that may provoke desire or cause temptation.
3 – There should be no other way of telling her what he wants to say, such as through his sister or her brother, or by letter.
4 – It should not go beyond what is essential.
If these guidelines are met, especially the stipulation that there be no risk of provoking desire and if there is a need to speak to her, then it is permissible. But if any of these guidelines is not met then talking to her becomes something that is not allowed according to sharee’ah. If you talk to her and one of these guidelines is not met whilst you are fasting, this is going to affect your fast. In this case it is worse and a more serious sin, because it is happening at a time of virtue, and because the one who is fasting has to protect his fast from anything that may spoil it or affect it.
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